My husband has ISSUES......

With my family..... and it’s frustrating me. After two years I’m finally seeing it. The nail has finally dropped.

When I was expecting out 1st child he rarely tried to win me over when I tried so hard to have my mum come out to where I was giving birth. She sorted her passport etc, his family didn’t even show concern that she wasn’t there to support me. Didn’t even offer her a room at the house. - my mum paid a lot of money to have it renewed fast track to come out and fly to where I was.

She recently told me in confidence that she felt like they didn’t want her there. She cried and she felt really left out. This was her 1st grandchild and my hubby’s mums 9th grandchild, but the 1st that bares the family name.

I’ve done nothing but try to bring both sides of the family together but he ALWAYS resists.

I’m expecting again and he didn’t tell my parents and won’t allow me to tell them either. He said he will tell them when HE is ready! This was when I was early on in the pregnancy. Now that I’m much further and showing he still hasn’t said anything and I’ve not brought anything up either till today. He asked what my mom has said about the pregnancy and I said nothing as she doesn’t know, which is true. He now said ‘good, I was just testing you’

That really struck a nerve so I asked why we haven’t said anything yet. He said cos it’s our family. (PS, we have told his mum when I found out early on)

He said why must we tell them everything that goes on in our family. We should have secrets too. I said having a baby shouldn’t be a secret. Plus this child is from two families. Yes it bares your last name but I am from another family too.

It was gonna turn into an argument so I squashed it. I made it clear to him that he is making himself look like he’s being hauty and that he has issues with my family.

I also told him if a third party were to see or hear what he says they’d say he has issues with them and he has no regard for my parents at all.

I have started to feel like that now too and don’t know what to do.

Hi mum even said in the early stage the only ones that need to know are our parents - WHICH INCLUDES MINE! I dunno what else to do.

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He keeps saying he has no issues with my family and he loves my parents but actions speak louder than words. I love my husband very much but this is a lot!

UPDATE:

He/we only told his mum as she was staying with us at the time and as she’s elderly and in our custom it’s for the children to look after our parents so I was doing a lot while working etc, so it was to kind of get her to back off a bit and not ask me to do too much including lifting and going up and down