I hear/see soooooooo many posts about how some ones S/O treated them like this or that and see all these comments like leave like what’s wrong with you. Run girl... When I’m sure every single girl has felt some toxicity in there own relationship currently before or when ever. Whether it was mentally questioning yourself if your good enough, or that one time he grabbed you but it was just that one time, or when you guys were in that heated moment and he called you the worse thing possible but it was just that one heated moment. It’s a thing and don’t for one second think I am pro abuse of any sort but before you go and comment on some ones post off of some texts or something they said think. I learned number one there is always 2 sides to everything and number two I was in a toxic relationship mentally, physically, and full blown draining and it’s very very difficult bringing that into a marriage hoping they change, keeping it a secret or trying to, because he spoiled me with everything and when it was good it was great... I’m sure we all heard that. But fortunately my husband did change He used to be like sickly controlling, like everyone was looking at me why’s that guy looking at you did you sleep together why you wearing that why did you glance that way. It made our entire relationship toxic and I stayed because I loved him and no one saw him how I did in the alone. He used to call me names so I actually would hit him and caused an even more toxic environment. Luckily we didn’t have kids so it gave us time to work at us. And honestly I thank GOD for who my husband is a COMPLETE 360. He loves when I dress up, we go out to friend/family things and mingle alone, we go to the gym and I wear what ever I want “revealing” or not and we work at our body for OURSELVES and then each other. So I’m not going to be that girl that tells you they never change not going to judge your relationship and tell you to leave but just know if deep in your gut and mentally forget your heart you both are on the same page in growing and there’s effort. Go for it and stay ****but if you ever feel like your life is being threaten please run****. Let him have that time he needs to personally heal and grow on his own. Like I said it takes time we dated for 6 years and married for 4 and I can honestly and truthfully say just these past 2 years have been the best years of our marriage and many more to come. It’s not a lot but the change in the last 2 truly made up for the 6 in total. Call me crazy call me stupid for wasting 6 years of my life for only 2 Good years. I stayed because he was possessive was that a good thing did it make a difference nope not at all. He treated me like a queen still does he was mentally draining constantly having insecurities because of things that happened to him because women that would leave him or simply things he would of never told me about but luckily with effort opened up. We are not just married people we are constantly getting to know each other we are now best friends understanding running to each other to talk about things. We are working and growing towards a better us. That’s why I will never judge a relationship but I understand not every relationship is like mine or can be. I understand not everyone has or is willing to put in the work or time to get married. People get married because they can easily divorce if it doesn’t go as planned, get married because they got knocked up and just seems right. Get married to leave there homes and just try it out. Marriage is serious and it’s not just a piece of paper it’s a commitment not many people want to keep anymore. Just spilling my thoughts. Best of luck to you woman that post about your relationships and to the ones that comment but to the ones that are seriously in danger please seek help ASAP a guy only has power when they think you have given it to them. Best of luck!!