Open relationship?

Question

My girlfriend (trans mtf) asked if we could have an open relationship because she was curious about being with guys which I think is a good idea for her since obviously I can't satisfy that for her. However she also wants to open our relationship to other women and anyone else and I'm not sure how I feel about that. I don't want her to come to resent me if I say no but also I kind of feel like I'm not enough for her so she feels like she has to find what's missing somewhere else. She said at the end of the day we're each other's #1 priority and she said she wouldn't leave me and basically tried to reassure me that it's not about me not being enough, she would just like to try things she knows I wouldn't be into. I have no idea how to feel or how to decide does anyone have any good suggestions?

Answer

Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with just to please her. If she gets mad then you know she is not the one. If you’re okay with it go for it if not talk to her and tell her you’re not up to it. She should respect your decision.

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Hey! I think it’s super cool that you’re supporting your girlfriend through her transition - you’re a special person sticking by her side! Personally, I’m not into an open relationship, but for any relationships communication is key! If you feel comfortable with her experimenting with guys, let her know you’re cool with that aspect. However, I feel if you’re having any doubts about females and if it makes you feel a negative way you should definitely have a talk. She can reassure you as much as she likes that you’re enough, and genuinely mean it (which I’m sure she does!!), that won’t change the fact you feel uncomfortable with it and you have every right to. From what I’ve read, explicit boundaries need to be set up that both parties know about and agree to - I’m glad you’re putting each other first though!! Good luck girly x

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An open relationship has to be something that is wanted and okay with BOTH partners. If you are not okay with it it will not work and your relationship will suffer. If she truly sees you as the one and she knows you’re not okay with it then she won’t resent you, but if this is really important to her then she will have to move on. It is not okay to put you in a situation where you do not feel comfortable.

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I'm monogamous so I wouldn't do it but if its something you're interested in have a conversation with her about rules and boundaries. Bring your concerns to her so you two can work out something you're both comfortable with. If she does resent you for not being comfortable with certain things then I think you should leave. She can be single if it's mandatory that she has to sleep around

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I definitely couldn't do it, regardless of if my partner was with one gender or another. I personally don't feel comfortable with non-monogomous relationships, but not everyone feels the same, so it would be worthwhile having a really deep conversation about how you both feel on the subject and how you feel about your relationship and the implications it might have for that. I feel like, on paper, things like this work out better than in reality. I hope you find a good solution for you both - good luck!

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I personally couldn’t do it. Take time to think about it and sit down for a serious talk.

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