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Yup! We've been together since 2013. Living together, at some point we might get married but we started trying for a baby in 2017, it took us a while because i had been on birth control for years and years, plus i needed to get on Metformin to regulate my cycle. We are expecting a baby girl in early September. I'm giving her his last name as i feel it's psychologically important for both of them for her to have it. i also have legal documents all queued up after she's born regarding guardianship and my life insurance to be filled out to take care of legal aspects since we won't be married she's born and likely not for quite some time after afterward. I would say if you feel like you are definitely ready for a baby but not really interested in marriage yet or ever, by all means get cracking! Sometimes you get pregnant quickly but sometimes you hit bumps and it may take much longer. As long as you handle all of the stuff that marriage normally includes as far as rights and obligations then there's no real reason to wait if you're ready. Good luck! I hope tou get you BFP soon!
Planned baby before marriage?
My boyfriend (of 5.5 years, living together for 5) and I have decided to start trying to get pregnant. We’re not particularly interested in marriage at this point, we’ll probably go ahead and do it as some point, but would rather hold off for a bit for several reasons. We’re early 30s, financially stable and have always planned to have a family, agreeing that he’ll be a stay at home dad as I’m much more invested in my career.
Wondering if any of you have done it this way? Checking the baby box before the wedding box on purpose? Anything you wish you had known? Any advice?
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Am
lmao! I'm sure he'll probably change his mind after changing a few of those! Congratulations on deciding to take that step towards parenthood! I'm really excited for you, watching that BFP turn up with my boyfriend was totally magical.
Ju
Thanks for all the info! That’s helpful! It was only last week that we decided to start trying, but we’ve been talking about parenting for about as long as we’ve been together. Our one disagreement is paper vs cloth diapers 😂 he prefers cloth and I figure since he’s the one that’s going to be changing the majority of them he wins.
Am
Hopes are about your journey. I know a lot of people have kids with out thinking much of it but for us it was very important that we are on the same page and that we have a lot of trust in each other.
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