What do you do if you are miserable and think you need to go see someone for marriage counseling but your husband doesn't agree and thinks counseling is useless?

I've tried talking to my mom but there is only so much she can say and so much I say about it to her.

My husband works 50+ hours a week and when he is home just wants to 'zone out' into the tv. We have a 2 yo and I stay home with her. When he is home he is usually too tired to really want to interact with us much. We rarely have sex and if we do it's cause I keep initiating it. We don't really talk anymore cause he doesn't want to talk about work or is too tired to keep up with a conversation. When we have gone out together on like date nights they have been ending in me doing or saying something that accidentally pisses him off and results in an argument. I have tried telling him how I feel but I always feel guilty after and it seems like it really hurts his feelings to hear but then nothing changes. I try to cut him slack knowing how hard he works but he never seems to cut me any.

What do I do? I have tried saying let's get counsling but he flips out saying it is stupid, counslors are idiots and then gets all pissy. We have been married for 3 years and we always say 'in the winter it will be better' (his busy season is summer) or 'next year when he hires better employees' but I am worried that my whole life will be 'better when....'b