We sometimes focus so much on how a loss affects us as the mothers but my SO has also been devastated by this loss. We have been through 2 other miscarriages before the 12th week and an ectopic pregnancy before this last pregnancy. We were so excited once we hit 14 weeks and then the further along we got the more we felt this was going to be our Rainbow Baby but then at 21 wks our baby girls heart stopped beating.