So my boyfriend and I are into DDLG play. He is trying to find his daddy switch so that he can do it moreso on command than waiting for his brain to kinda get in that headspace.

He’s new to all of this mind you I’m letting him get there on his own and not forcing things because forcing him to get into this is not how I want it to go.

So, any recommendations on how to flip that switch faster or on command? I’ve always been the sub and never really had to help someone figure out that headspace before (normally because they were already there) so I need help either on what I can do to help or what I can tell him to try. We want to be able to get there quicker in the bedroom as well as outside of the bedroom if that matters. Thanks y’all!

So we did some research and scrolling through a shit ton on reddit posts and blogs on BDSM as well as DDLG. We developed a small routine to get both of us into whichever headspace he wants (cause I’m cool either way) so part of it was him telling me to go get myself ready which is me getting into panties/bra or nude etc. whichever I feel is best. Getting all of the items ready and in place (basically just making sure what’s in order is in order to please him) while he goes into dark space and put music on a speaker loud enough for both to hear yet in different areas of the house. So basically denying me the pleasure of seeing him and touching him until he’s ready. He then came in but still denied me seeing and touching while he talks and gets me into either little space or sub space. Then proceeded with the toys and stuff. It definitely got him into Dom space and I believe helped get him into that whole uncontrollable different person daddy headspace. So thanks for the help y’all!