Y'all, I love this man but geez.
***UPDATE: He's spent the entire weekend what seems like avoiding me. He stayed in the bedroom all day until I went to lay down, then he grabbed his stuff and went in the front room and he can't be mad at me, I haven't done anything for him to be mad about ? I woke up before him today, been in the front room, he woke up, I went in the bedroom, asked if he was hungry he said no and laid back down. (Mind y'all he just slept from 5am-1pm and from like 2pm-4pm. He ain't tired..) ***
So long story short, me and my SO have been together a year now, our anniversary was on the 4th. My birthday was June 16th and he gets paid biweekly so we decided with the pay schedule and my birthday/our anniversary being so close we decided we'd go out last weekend and do a two for one celebration. He's the one who suggested we go out (since he forgot my birthday on the day of and didn't get me anything but I was okay with that) and I suggested restaurants the week of, then the weekend came. I got up a little before him, got all dolled up, he wakes up says he's hungry so I make him brunch (it's now 3 p.m.) eat that, hang around the house.. hang around the house.. hang around the house. We never left, never went out, never celebrated. Money is tight so I figured maybe that was it but why suggest it and hype me up all week ?
Fast forward to the 4th, it's our anniversary, he got the day off work, I wake up and he starts an argument about how I didn't pick up because his dirty shirt was still laying on the floor, which every other day the house is spotless, just the one time the shirt is in the floor and he makes a huge deal of it, we sit in separate rooms most of the day, no happy anniversary, I'm glad I got to spend this year with you, nada. The argument subsided and we were back to being us, but still no happy anniversary no nothing. That night I posted a cute little flipgram with our pics and our song and tagged him in it, 2 days later he still hasn't liked it or even acknowledged it.
Today he started an argument over nothing and basically insinuated he didn't want to be around me, and when I tried to talk to him about anything, like that it was about to storm, he told me he didn't care. Just flat out, cold, didn't care.
Most days are great, we laugh and snuggle on the couch and have a good time but I feel like he doesn't really want to be with me and idk how to bring it up because when I try to talk or tell him how he makes me feel unwanted he just thinks I'm attacking him and says 'well leave then' or 'find someone else who can give you what you need then'. I just want to know if he really wants to be with me, I don't want to be wasting my time and my life if he doesn't.
Also it's been a year and I told him I loved him at about 6 months, he still hasn't told me. A few weeks ago he told me that he's come close to saying it but he's 'been through some shit' like yeah.. so have I. I just don't get it and am looking for some direction, any.
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