Separation anxiety and sleep problems

So my daughter has always been very clingy. Always been a mamas girl and cried when someone tried touching her or got to close to her. That got a little better now. Instead, she now cries as soon as I leave the room and particularly bad when I leave for work in the mornings. I can somehow handle all this. But what I can’t handle is her straight up refusal to sleep in her crib anymore.

I’ve always taken her to bed with us when she woke up at night for a feeding cause I had to be up in the morning and was too tired to put her back down (getting her to sleep alone has always been a major hassle). She sleeps through the night most days now but straight up refuses to sleep in her crib in the first place. No matter how long she’s been out when I put her down, as soon as we get close, she “senses” it and started squirming and crying.

Letting this baby “cry it out” is not an option as she cries until she loses her voice and then still fusses. She does NOT sleep. She never just “passes out”. She has always been dependent on us to help her.

When she’s in bed with us, she constantly squirms and when I turn away from her to get comfy, she spits out the paci and whines.

My back hurts and my vision is blurry from sleep deprivation. I don’t know how to work like this anymore. Please tell me someone else is going through something similar. Please tell me this stops.

My son was such a great sleeper. I miss those times lol