I'm currently pregnant with my third. This was supposed to be our last, but we didn't get the gender we wanted to complete our family.

I'm contemplating trying again. I'd love 4 kids, but it would be so difficult financially, career wise, and pregnancy wise (my pregnancies are very difficult). My husband does not want 4 (but would go for 4 if I wanted to).

My question: would you try again to try and get the gender you want? Or would you not risk it, since it may not work and then we would be disappointed, and struggling more to support our family? I really want to try again, but am afraid it won't work the way we want it to. Also, 4 kids is very daunting.