So my husband & I are newly married, we both have children from previous relationships as well as a 10 month old together & a baby girl due 10/1/19, together we have a total of 6 kids. We took the time & money earlier this year to get our credit together so we could move to a bigger place. Finally all of our hard work and patience has paid off we just got approved for our first house & will be moving into our new home on the 15th. Problem is his older cousin has been staying with us for the last 6 weeks or so & I don’t want him to move with us to our new place. He says he has no where to go. He did give us $200 towards rent this month, as he should because he’s living with us. He really isn’t a bother & he has been saving us money on daycare by watching the kids while we work the real reason I don’t want him to move with us is because he has an incontinent issue and refuses to wear a adult brief.. Our entire apartment currently reeks of adult urine. My husband had a talk with him about it a few weeks back & he started to go to the restroom more and didn’t seem to have any accidents which kind of makes me think he’s doing it out of pure laziness. He will wet himself & continue to sit in it for a day or 2 before showering. Then when he does shower he rinses his underwear and hangs them over the shower which makes the bathroom smell TERRIBLE. Before you ask, he has no mental deficits I mean I leave my kids with him & don’t think twice about it. We have chosen all new furniture for our new house and I don’t think it’s fair to have him come live in our living room & ruin our brand new couch & have our new house smelling like urine. I told my husband when we put the application in for this house if we were approved he can’t come with us & he kind of blew me off . Now that we’re actually approved I brought it up again & his response was where is he suppose to go ? He has no where to go? I hate to be a bitch but dude we have SIX kids he’s not our responsibility.. what am I supposed to do ? Do I approach the cousin myself and tell him he needs to find some where to go? I’d honestly rather back out on this house than to have him move with us. I’ve only been ok with him staying with us now because I knew we would be moving soon and going our separate ways.... or so I thought 😩