How do i forget about him?!?!

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I was with him for 3 years. He dumped me 2 days ago because im too “controlling, possessive, insecure” i wont deny it but the only reason why i felt that way was bc he never put effort into our relationship. I was always the one planning dates, picking him up, paying for our movie tickets. We never went anywhere, just movies and food. I wanted to go to six flags, i wanted to go on trips, i wanted to be adventurous with him. He however, never was interested in that. I settled because i loved him. But then ill turn around and he would go out to bars, go out with friends, go out to play pool (something i love to do) it was just never with me. I became controlling because if he couldn’t do things with me, why can he do it with others?!??? When he dumped me, he said. “i feel like i have to sneak my way around in order to not upset you.” I truly understood that part bc of how bitchy i get when he goes out. Tomorrow, i see him. I work with him. He asked me for space and dumped me. And i dont know what to do. I want to talk to him. I want to fix it. I still love him. What do i do?! HELP

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Listen, I was in the SAME boat. I was with a man for 2.5 years, we were engaged. And I settled because I was blinded by what I thought was love. He was exactly how your ex sounds. And let me tell you it’ll eventually get worse, he’ll make you feel worthless. And he will break your self esteem (sounds like he’s already done that though). My ex up and left me one day, he packed all of his things while I was out of town and I came back to a NOTE. Fast forward a year and a half and I am now with the most incredible man I’ve ever met. And we are expecting our first child. 
There is someone who will love you more than you could ever imagine, but you’ve got to let go of your ex first. Not everyone in your life is meant to stay, some are meant to teach lessons, so let him be a lesson, to never settle again, to only be with someone who shows you true unconditional love. 
Sending lots of healing and strength your way!

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Stop being so clingy. You're very controlling and guys do not like that. Give him his room.

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You need to give it more than 2 days hunny. You need time.

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Girl move on. He did you a favor. That dude is only gonna hold you back. He has no motivation and doesn’t seem that interesting

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Lets keep it simple and only tell you something because I know how you feel. 
Work on yourself. Meaning be without him and for a while just learn to love yourself again because you’re incredible in many ways and you need to stop mistreating yourself
When you stop mistreating yourself you won’t settle for men who make no effort for you. You’ll know your worth and aim for what makes you happy.
Best of luck 💕

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Why would you want to be with someone that made you unhappy? It sounds like he wasn't that into you and just didn't want to go do stuff with you. That's no reflection of your value or worth just incompatibility. When you get the feelings that you want to make it work try to remember that it didn't work, the relationship didn't bring the best out of you and instead you were insecure and controlling as a result of it. Let it go and let yourself heal. Hang out with friends, go do that fun stuff and hold out for a partner that wants to do all the fun adventures with you.

How do i forget about him?!?!

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