I have seen so many “my husband cheated” topics nowadays and here I am being included in that now...

So long story short. My husband and I have the same group of friends, mainly all guys. We’re both in the military stationed in Japan. We go out separate sometimes (like clubbing) because we have a daughter so someone has to stay home. I told him not to be fucking around with hoes. I made clear guidelines. No dancing and grinding with other women, no getting the number and snap. He agreed. Well this weekend he went out and got arrested by the Japanese police for having a pocket knife in the car (which is illegal in japan) so he is gonna be detained for possibly a week with no contact, no cellphone. Our friends end up coming over and tell me they gotta tell me shit. They showed me a message my husband had sent one of them while we were out clubbing for my BIRTHDAY and he asked if they could get this girls number for him without being obvious in front of me. They told my husband they don’t play games like that, they don’t think cheating is fine. And my husband tried telling them it was so they could be friends 😂😂 then they told me he had danced with so many girls, then grinding there ass on him and shit. Soooo I messaged him this. Am I being too extra? Like if it was just dancing? I would of waited to talk in person but he is currently detained 😂 so when he gets out he is gonna see this

PS: non military people, an article 15 is the military’s punishment (losing rank, losing pay, extra duty, and possibly getting kicked out)

Also sorry for bad grammar, I was/am still shocked and pissed