What do you do?

Question

I've told so several times that I need to feel wanted by him. Especially lately and he doesn't do anything. He turns it into a fight. I'm done fighting. I'm done sweeping how I feel under the rug. It hurts and I tried to talk to him and he won't even try. Idk what to do anymore.

Answer

The best way to remind a man how much he wants, loves and needs you is to make yourself unavailable to him in every way. No "taking care" of him, no sex, no cooking, no even acknowledging him unless bare basic communication is necessary. And then, keep it short. Don't tell him what you're going to do, or why, just do it. Get busy living life but do it with morals and honor. When you leave the house make sure you look on point, dress up sometimes just because. Look your personal best, it affects how you perceive and feel about yourself. Treat yourself to some flowers, etc. Reconnect with some girlfriends or make new ones. Stay busy. When you make yourself less available you challenge him, make him curious...bring his focus back on you. Make HIM be the one to wonder why things are different. Make him pursue your love, time and interest. Men require challenge and stimulation. Remind him why he wanted you to begin with. He will come around. And if by some chance he doesn't...not only will you hurt much less from it but...you will barely notice. Since talking doesn't work...don't. Be proactive in your own life sugar, and things will change. Love N Luck!

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I can kind of understand how you feel. My husband and I had I had about the same conversation tonight and his excuse was that he's "not used to being married to me." Here is the thing he's used to getting sex regularly and used to me doing all of the cooking and cleaning. I have a full time job and so does he. But he's not used to worrying about my needs just used to me taking care of his. It's frustrating and not fair. But hang in there your do is like mine and a lot of other men out there they don't think about the emotional side of things. Give him time, I know it's hard.

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Do you every initiate?

You could be watching TV and just say come here I need you right now. Pull him to you. Or if he tries to get up in the morning before you, don't let him. Draw him into you. Show you need him physically by being physical.

He's probably afraid to start anything for fear that you'll just push him away and fight more.

Turning yourself off to him won't do anything but turn him off to you more. Negativity promotes negativity.

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My x husband treated me like that I just left....not only had I met someone else (my current and final husband, please don't judge) but I figured u know what we have fought about it so much he knows how I feel and he clearly doesn't care so I'm out! I lived on my own for over a year (close to 2) and am now happily married to a man who showers me with compliments and let's me know how much he appreciates me many times a day.....not saying just leaving and not trying to work it out is always the solution but honestly I don't think people can be made to treat someone in a way they don't want to....if my x wanted to he could've treated me right but instead he found it easier to just ignore me and insult me when possible and always make me feel not good enough....i don't want to be treated that way and I refuse to let anyone...thankfully I don't have that problem anymore..... hopefully u find the answers ur looking for and no matter what u decide be happy with life we all deserve to be happy ♡

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