Complicated love

Ma

So I broke up with my boyfriend of four years around four months ago. We had been together since I was a freshman in high school and stayed together until I was a freshman in college. I thought that he was the one but overtime he started to take a different path in life that I was not interested in. He would disapprove of my style of life and tried to make me take his path instead because he thought that it was the better way to go. On top of that issue we were also doing long-distance this past year in college. He was in Boston and I was in Hawaii. This puts pressure on relationship as well. While I was still in a relationship with him I started to become intrigued by a guy in my friend group. Since my boyfriend was not making me feel happy I decided to end things with him reluctantly. I am now dating the guy that I had interest in while we were still together. We’ve been together now for three months. He treats me really well but the only problem is is that I don’t feel the same infatuating love for him that I did with my old boyfriend. I find my stuff still thinking about my ex boyfriend all the time and very often crying about him. Even though I don’t think my current boyfriend is going to be the one in the long run he feels secure right now. I don’t feel like it’s totally fair for him though since I am definitely in love with my ex still. I am not sure what to do with my current love situation. Should I break up with my current boyfriend and try to figure things out by myself? Should I try to get back with my ex boyfriend? Or should I just stay with my current boyfriend and see what happens? Also I have actually expressed to my ex boyfriend how I have been been feeling about him and unfortunately he is not interested in getting back together with me because he says that he needs a break from being in a relationship for a while to find himself. This makes things even harder because now I know that even if I were to break up with my current boyfriend my ex would not be readily waiting for me. I’m very scared of being alone since I’ve been a relationship all of my high school life and college life. The thought of not having a boyfriend scares me. Part of me wishes that my ex would fight for me to come back to him but that’s not the case. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks for taking the time to read ❤️