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Talk to your husband and don't expect him to know what you're thinking. Just tell him that you overheard them talking and you really don't feel comfortable with having a lot of people in the house during flu season. Heck, I told my parents they will need their flu shots and TDAP when they come visit for the month. He can talk to grandma or you can talk about it with her together. Let her know that you appreciate the suggestion but it isn't something your comfortable with. If she's offended then she is offended- this is your child after all.
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My husbands grandma is here she's sweet but very pushy, always wants her way... She's always making her own plans.. For example. She told my husband to invite ALL his friends when the baby is born to My house for a "Welcome baby party" (my husband hasn't mentioned it to me yet, I overheard them talking about it this morning... shes loud) all he said was OKAY GRANDMA I WILL! But I don't want a party at my house w/my newborn... I don't even know half his friends & having alll these ppl around my newborn.... Its risky especially w/flu season & im sure they're or some are sick & babies immunity is low! I wanted to be alone w/him & the baby for a while though I appreciate the thought of a party... But im also gonna be recovering... Idk what to do but im gonna be extra pissed if my husband doesn't tell me about it! What would you do or say? -Thanks
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Ugh why do people butt in so much?! It's so annoying. As soon as you get pregnant it's like your house and your baby (and you!) become public property in the eyes of some people. I know they mean well but people should respect boundaries. And DEFINITELY back off when you let those boundaries be known. They may mean well but they have no right to get offended if you politely set your own boundaries.
I wouldn't wait for him to bring it up. I would ask him about it and then tell him how you feel about it and why. I would also talk to the grandma and say that you are not comfortable with that many people being in the house and that if she would like to host, plan and pay for a party January, once baby has had it's shots, would be more acceptable to you.
Da
Thanks for putting it in that perspective! Helps 😊 Yes, I guess I'll have to deal w/her bitching at me for the rest of the month. Ugh!
Sa
well. I guess you have to ask yourself what's your priority: keeping peace with an old lady who lives states away most of the time or keep your sanity and health in check. no judgment for whatever you decide but only you can make your priority known
Da
She is only visiting here for 1 month. So all of October. We live in North Dakota & she lives in Texas so it'd be hard for her to come up here again in January. Plus if I tell his grandma something she gets really angry and starts to dislike me. We've gotten into it before when I was just engaged.
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