To start I‘ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years and he was my first. I feel very lucky to have him and our personalities work well together and we always help each other grow.

My boyfriend isn’t fond of having period sex because of what comes out afterwards so we generally don’t have sex while I’m on my period which is alright with me. But recently after my period and sometimes before the thickness of the mucus is enough that when we have sex it is white and chunky. My boyfriend has recently just started to notice this being a reoccurring thing and he feels repulsed by it. He claims that he just doesn’t feel attracted and can’t get hard when it’s like that because it looks a bit like puss.

Normally I wouldn’t be bothered by this, but it’s been three weeks now combining my period and this, where I’m super horny and confused as to why he can’t get over something natural. He thinks I have a yeast infection or something not normal but it is oder-less and it isn’t itchy. I remember my vaginal secretions always being thick and clumpy sometimes during my menstrual cycle and I tried telling him that he’s overreacting and that he never paid attention to it till now.

I understand that he’s one of those guys more on the cleaner side of the neatness spectrum but I think it’s going a bit too far now. We have anal sex, and he has had sex with me on my period when it was light so I don’t understand why this is so bad.

I called the gynecologist and they haven’t gotten back to me. I don’t think I have a problem but I need to know because I don’t have many friends who have had sex who I can talk to. Is this normal? Is he being too squeamish? Is there something I can do about it? I’m starting to get extremely frustrated and stuck about all of this. Please help me.