I am currently 8 months pregnant, like as of yesterday I have a 14 month old daughter with my fiancé. If he even is still that, idk. For some back story. Him and I have been together 10years. I’m 24 now and he’s gonna be 27 in December. Like any couple we’ve had ups and downs blab blah blah. But I noticed when we got engaged his mother turned into this monster towards me. We got engaged in Dec of 2018 I was about 7 months with our first daughter and since then little secrets I never knew came out. She’d talk shit to me when he wasn’t in the room, I find out she had all his passwords to his bank accounts, she would rack up his cc’s and let them go into collections pretty much. She ran him. And he let it happen. I dont know if it’s because he’s afraid to tell her, I don’t know if he thinks she really sacrificed her life and he has to pay her back. Idk. But either way it’s gotten to be the worst it’s ever been when him and I decided recently to move out. A few months ago he said I was being “too hard on her” so I took a step back and TRULY tried to extend a hand while still asking for respect for our relationship and to stop trying to parent my child.(she babysits her). And I’m not ungrateful but at some point I think we HAVE to be on our own. I’ve been independent since I was 18 and he’s a mamas boy. Well after so much drama and mistreatment from his mom I finally said enough. Thinking he was finally going to take my side after seeing everything she’s done. Well after a long talk I thought him and I were on the same page. Until yesterday he kept text me why I still seemed upset, so I explained “I know things don’t get better right away, I’m still just hurt and upset it had to come to this and I’m uncomfortable in her home, locked in the room even if it is my choice to avoid her, I don’t want to forgive her right now.”

He pretty much replied that it was my fault for choosing to stay in the room and she didn’t do anything wrong. SO mind you, again I’m at work reading this, I’m pregnant, AND apparently the conversation we had the night before meant nothing and his promise to change was BS. So I came home I packed a back for the weekend for myself and the baby to come to my moms, which I have NEVER done. I try to work shit out always and he has never taken my side over his family. Am I not family too? Am I not the mother of his kids,fiancé, partner of 10 years who has given her all to better this little family HE asked for? Because I never thought of having kids but you know, you love someone and you agree because you love them and please no one read that wrong,I love my babies, they’re everything I never knew I wanted. But as I get in the car he followed me out and asked how long would I be gone, I didn’t want to argue so I told him, “I’m going to my moms, you want to come? Be my guest, if not I’m done fighting your mom wins, you never take my side and I don’t want to stand in the way of her trying to manhandle you the rest of our lives when I’ve given everything for us and you still don’t pick us first”

After a lengthy argument in the driveway he said “fine if you leave don’t come back”.

So now here I am alone because my mom left to Vegas(which I forgot she had a trip this weekend) in her home, 8 months pregnant with my 14 month old. No texts from him, no calls, and no show to fight for us. Knowing he’s at home while his mom is still there, I’m sure, telling him to leave me. I’m hurt, I’m angry and I don’t know what to do anymore. All I wanted was to clear my head for the weekend and have him realize when I am gone, I did everything for us. And now I can’t even come home, because I stood up for myself? I just really could use some advice that isn’t my mom’s. She doesn’t like to get involved in our relationships because she’s knows all too well how hard that is when parents say things and how much it can influence. I love my mom and family but whenever they said a negative thing about him. I defended him. And it seems I’m never going to be put first with our child. And I’m trying to stay calm cause of the baby and I don’t want anything to hurt while I’m pregnant but I’m a mess.