Alright ladies, this is a long one but I need your help!!!

I have recently just got engaged to the love of my life and we currently have our first little one on the way. We are currently in the process of buying our first home. But there’s a family issue going on.....his grandma and mom act like they don’t want him to buy a house just yet? Yes we are young but we have made the calculations and we can definitely afford this home no problem but it seems like they are trying their hardest to convince him not to buy a house. I’m not due til February but I also don’t wanna still be living with his grandma and mom when the baby gets here. I wanna have a place of our own.

To put this into perspective, my relationship with his family is very tense we don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things(mean they are more old fashion and me being a more modern girl) and there have been comments made suggesting that I’m not very liked within this family although he reassures to me that I am....example his mom and him got into an argument about something then his ex was brought up and basically what was stating was that he didn’t try hard enough to keep his ex girlfriend) which to me sort of rubbed me off the wrong way.....but I let it go....also they never really started acting like this until AFTER he proposed to me and I ended up being pregnant.

Now he absolutely adores his grandma because that’s who raised him his whole life. She’s very old fashioned and I’m more of a modern girl so our personality’s sort of collide when it comes to certain things. I personally feel she doesn’t like me even tho he says she does. She won’t speak about anything in front of me when it comes to the house and stuff she will only talk to him and it really bothers me.

Another thing that really makes me mad is that he made the comment to me that God is #1 priority (which I have no problem with because so is mine) then he proceeds to say that HIS GRANDMA is his #2 priority because she raised him and he loves her and would do anything for her. And then I’m #3.....I understand he really cares about his grandma and her opinion on things but i guess my question is should I be upset he’s putting his grandma before me and his on the way child or am I just overreacting??? Should I tell him his grandma really needs to stay out of it because it’s none of her concern??? Do I have the right to be upset with him because of the way I feel like I’m being treated by his family?? Should I give him an ultimatum like it’s me and the kid or your grandma and mom??? Idk I’m so stressed out about the whole situation I’m about to just tell him forget this house screw It I’ll live with my mom and dad til your ready but idk!!! I need help?!?!?!