Would you date someone with HIV?

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Please no offence.
I’m not judgemental etc or make any assumptions how anyone contracted it whether birth or through other ways i don’t judge anyone and have no issues being friends etc.
But personally I wouldn’t want to date someone with HIV even though there are ways to protect your self from getting it..
I was shocked to read a post that I believe she is undetectable so her and her partner do not use protection ( condoms) ..
I also read people were saying that if someone says they don’t want to date the person they are a bad person so I guess I had to think about it ..
I get it they wouldn’t want to date me either and there is many people who will so no need to say that. 
I really feel I’m non judgmental so I guess I was abit surprised when  I was kind of feeling some kind of way.. like I have two kids I can’t afford to take risks and there is a risk in everything.
Now if someone I was already in love with contracted some how not through cheating but like how ever way yes I would stay because I already love them by that point ..
I more so mean if someone told me on a second date .. I would be respectful and maybe stay friends
What’s your view ?

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I would, but I would always use protection. I've worked with people with HIV, shared food with people with HIV and provided you take precautions it's all good.
I feel it's irresponsible not to use protection, no matter how low your levels are.  You do still have the illness after all.

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I have friends with HIV, and family that I have lost to HIV. I personally would not date someone with HIV not because I would be scared of getting it because Undetectable leaves and today’s  medication have come so far that the risk isn’t really there. But the increased medical cost and amount of time it takes from your life would really make me second guess that choice as a life partner. I would be looking for someone I could build my forever with. Unfortunately the reality is that the cost associated with treatment and prevention would take away from building and growing our future. I may sound callous but that’s my honest answer.

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I felt the same way as you at some point. I mean, that would be quite a hassle to worry about in a relationship. It's definitely not a disease to mess around with. 
But, honestly, yes I probably would. I don't have kids however. I don't think anyone is bad for not being able to sacrifice their health and body this way- it's kinda serious. 
I guess I wouldn't want to stigmatize someone if they had it and it's my natural inclination to be understanding. But I also likely would avoid intimacy with them until I know how to avoid getting it and know them pretty well, I don't really have sex arbitrarily anyway, so I'd be good to wait until the relationship is a bit more developed to start taking the risk.

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I personally would not. Im aware that if you take your medication, your viral load can be undetectable and they can live a normal life but it would turn me off.

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If you want to have kids in the future you will have to have sex without protection. Then it’s not avoidable. I’m not sure how that works, but I would also be protecting myself by not having sex with and dating them. That does not make me a bad person. It’s just a preference and I wouldn’t judge someone for having it or wanting to be with someone who did.

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I wouldn’t enter a relationship with someone who had it. I have issues with chronic illness/conditions after watching how much my mother struggled and hurt seeing my stepfather decline and eventually die from MS. It left a deep impact on me. I just couldn’t put myself knowingly in that position.
Now, if my husband contracted it through reasons unrelated to sex I wouldn’t be able to leave him for it either though. He’s the love of my life and father of my children.

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Your opinion is completely respectable and its ok to not want to date or risk getting HIV. I was very fascinated by the disease and did a lot of research on it a couple years back but even knowing that someone is undetectable I would still have that little fear of what if. However like you if my bf would get it through blood transfusion or wtv reason  asides cheating I wouldn't leave him I would work through it. At the end of the day it's no longer a death sentence like it used to be and medecine has come a long way so if i were to get it I wouldnt be as distraught as when the illness came out.

Would you date someone with HIV?

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