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I’m 19, and up until today i was engaged. i’m 5 weeks pregnant. me and the father had planned on having this baby but today he dropped the bomb that he doesn’t not want to be with me and does not care what or how i handle the baby. i have severe bipolar depression and i know that with the hormones and my fiancé dumping me i will get bad again. i also will not be able to financially take care of the baby alone. i’m considering having an abortion. but i’m not sure because i do already love it. how many of you have had an abortion and went on to regret your choice?

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I feel like many women confuse grief with regret. You can grieve after having an abortion but still be content with your decision in the long run

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I did not regret having an abortion because my  boyfriend and I both don’t want kids. We knew we made the right choice

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If you feel it is not the right time i personally got my abortion because it wasn’t the right time or with the right relationship. I was an unplanned and unwanted child (my mother loved me but my father never did) it’s not a fun existence knowing you have a father that doesn’t care if you live or die. If you can’t financially sustain your child or pregnancy on your own. My personal opinion is that it is a choice you have to make for your child as well as yourself. I want kids and if it came at abetter point in my life even if that’s a year from now (who knows) i would’ve kept mine but i felt it just was not fair to the baby to bring into such misfortune. I’m so sorry you’re going through all that it’s hard enough on people without bipolar depression but to have such a struggle already on top of so many heart breaks it’s perfectly okay to be upset or sad. It is your choice what you do with the pregnancy and which ever you feel is right for you and the baby is the only option you should choose. I hope life looks up for you real soon! :(

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I terminated at 6 weeks 4 days, I was completely in love with that baby and loved the feeling of being pregnant. But I had my termination as I was due to start nursing school and we couldn’t afford a baby. I also suffer from severe depression / query bipolar. I don’t regret my termination, because I know it wasn’t the right time. Yes I get upset about it but it’s one thing to regret a termination, and another to regret having a baby, because that baby will rely on you and it’ll be tough and lonely at times. You obviously have your head screwed on and I’m so sorry this is happening to you right now, but you are strong. Give yourself some time to think about this decision, maybe talk it through with a friend or someone at the clinic you’ll go to if you terminate. I know it’s really shit to choose between your head and your heart, but you’ll get there my love xxx

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I regret mine. But I had hyperemesis gravidarum very severely and didn’t feel like I had a choice because I wanted to keep it initially. If you don’t feel right about it please don’t do it.

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I just recently had my abortion I took the pill and I don’t regret it at all. If your absolutely sure your not ready to have a child do what’s best for you. Don’t let any one pressure you to have a baby when your not ready. If you have questions about taking the pill or how it feels visit my page take a look. God bless🙏🏽

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It’s been 5 years, and no, zero regrets about getting an abortion. I am thankful everyday that I didn’t have a child when my life and I weren’t ready for one.

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Finding out you’re pregnant is a lot to deal with, for you and the father. You’re young and I’m assuming the father is too, not that it matters - the father of my baby was older and still wasn’t ready. He first said he was excited then decided it was the worst news of his life. My advice is to take the father out of the equation and figure out what the best option is for you. If you still want to have the baby, you could do adoption, you’ve got plenty of time to find an agency and a good family for your baby. However, if your ex fiancé ends up coming around later on, say when he sees you 6 months pregnant or 9 months even and suddenly decides he’s gonna be father of the year, he could get in the way of the process. 
If you think abortion is the best route, that’s fine too. For me, I financially wasn’t prepared to have a baby and physically wasn’t able to be pregnant and I knew if I carried the baby I would keep it. My fiancé was going back and forth on wanting it or not. He’d say I was on my own for the baby if I kept it, he’d pay child support but he wanted nothing to do with the child or me. Then he’d say there was no way in hell I was raising the kid without him. I could tell he was only going to cause problems and especially when I wasn’t prepared to be a mom, I wasn’t about to let us ruin the child’s life. 
It’s up to you and honestly I don’t think there’s an easy solution. I wish you the best figuring everything out!

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I mean if you’re having thoughts that you might regret it, then you most likely will. But If you’re for sure that you absolutely want to get rid of the baby and think you’ll be depressed caring for it by yourself then do what you think is right.

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