Marriage?

At first I was all excited alot has changed this year alone my husband works so much and me and his daughter talked to him about it. Everytime I said something she turned around me out of no where and would disagree and he wonders why I don't accept her as my own. Am I wrong for that? Anyways everytime I talk and let out my emotions he thinks I'm always mad I feel like he isn't letting me express myself and as a wife I feel like I was never one since I been married I feel as I'm just a ghost. The only thing that has made me happy are my kids. I just want a real marriage with happiness fun joy laughter not you didn't do this you don't do that all the time! I have more experience blah blah blah. I'm so sick of hearing that! We've known each other for 3 years and it seems as if what I do or say he doesn't have a care in the world he says he loves me to death but honestly I don't see it. My emotions are so scrambled right now I could just ...I have no idea what! This year has been the worst of my life except for when my son was born.