The guy I’m dating and myself have decided to try anal. Well, he’s done it before, and I sort of have. There was an incident where I was having some rough sex and the guy took it out, and when he went to shove it back in, he didn’t make it to my vagina but his tip just randomly rammed into my ass. Worst experience of my life. So, we tried last night, and it was not successful, mainly because I was scared asf because of that previous experience. So my question is, how do you work up go anal sex? Lube? How do you stay calm?