Should I Text Him Back??

Okay, going to try to make a long story short. Please note I’m very new to dating, always learning!

I started talking to this guy two months ago. We’re both 20. During those two months, we went on dates (baseball games, dinner, movies), spent lunch breaks together, met friends/family, and had sleepovers. He’s a true gentleman, and he has such a warm soul. I know he likes me, and I like him, too.

However, about a week after we met, I asked him about his intentions (we met on a dating app, but had mutual friends and share the same school). He revealed he’d gotten out of a relationship a month prior to our meeting and wanted to take things slow and get to know each other, but a relationship was the end goal.

So time passes and I’m still wondering how he’s doing because he barely talked about his past relationship, and I guess it was awkward for him (personally, I don’t mind talking about past relationships).

So, two days ago, I asked him about it again because I’d been feeling really insecure about where we stood. I felt as though it was nothing definitive, but we were doing relationship-type things, which we both realized later, and it was both of our mistakes. But he said he didn’t really want a relationship and felt as thought he’d feel rushed if that were to happen. The problem is: I feel as though he is unsure of how long he wants to wait to date, it just seems as though it’s just...indefinite. I’m not putting a time limit on it, but a part of me feels like he’s trying to save me for when he’s good and ready. 😭 I was feeling really bothered and kinda ended things with him, even though he wasn’t really feeling my decision and I could tell he was disappointed.

Am I moving too fast or what? My last relationship began kinda fast and we didn’t know each other well, which I believe was a reason I didn’t realize his major character flaw: a cheater! Should I talk to him again? I’ve been feeling like I may have acted on impulse and emotion, which I’m not proud of, because I’m not used of this whole process. I don’t want to lose out on a great guy because of a mistake and want to try to fix it before it’s too late!