I know 9mths isn't that long in comparison to how long some in the ttc community have been trying the world over. But any woman desperate to have a baby knows even 1, 2, 3 mths+ trying, routine, tiring opks day in day out certain times, the expenses of opks alone, then the tww, then to get this BFPs is just too much.

So I went to my doctors 8mths in (sorry but had to lie that I'd been trying a year otherwise you get no listening) so I went for my day 3 and day 23 tests. I'm ovulating. The doc told me it was easiest to test the man first but I just needed to know from my peace of mind.

So anyway I told my other half. And I went to the docs on my own volition. I had to get up and be at each clinic at 7am in the morning as I have work!

That's my level of dedication to our ttc efforts.

The men on the other hand don't go through all this. So after sec throughout my fertile week in August and getting a BFN early September I said enough was enough and I said right, go do your checks, at least if anything is wrong we can consider other options but it's unfair to make me go through this month in month out.

Anyway he went 2 weeks ago Monday, results should have been in 2-3 days as standard. That Friday? I heard nothing from him so I asked and he said "oh they said there was a delay I should wait until Monday" ok it's the weekend anyway what's the big deal. Monday can (Monday just gone, last Monday in September) I didn't hear from him. But I didn't ask I said to myself I am not going to keep asking as if he doesn't know he's supposed to pass me that info as soon as he gets it, this whole week has passed and nothing from him (we've been talking on the phone everyday and he's never said a word, I refuse to ask like I'm desperate, I asked once before). Nowhere in the world would it take Sperm clinic 2 weeks to five a 2-3 day result.

It's Sunday the 5th and he's still said nothing despite me saying today I was peed off with him since this week as he hadn't the respect for me to tell me what his results were. He still didn't on that call.

Is he hiding something?

anyone had this experience?

A man cannot be this aloof.

By way of background I am 33yrs with a 3.5yr old from a previous relationship and he is almost a decade older at 42 with an 9 and 6 yr old from a previous marriage and I know he and he wife struggled to conceive for a while as he told me when we started dating early on and at that time neither of us ever were thinking of having children with each other...He said the tests cindica him but found the wife needed help.

Now we are trying and I'm a young 33 yr old ovulating woman not getting pregnant and he's taken 2 weeks to tell me results, um thinking the problem may have been both sides of him!! And he's too embarrassed letting me know he has a low Sperm count or something and that I'll leave him as he tells me all the time he "won the lottery" with me....but it's just rude he's taken so long to tell me, a 42yr old man doesn't need programming on that level!!!