I understand why she left him now.

I just recently ended a relationship that felt one sided. He was selfish with his time and his affection. I knew him before we dated, when he was dating someone else. She broke up with him and I hated her for hurting him. From what he told me, she moved on emotionally with someone else during the end of their relationship before breaking up with him. I hated her so bad. But now, as I have felt what she has felt, as I have been in the same pain of feeling unloved and inadequate, and fighting for simple things for MONTHS, I am starting to understand. I do NOT condone her behavior, but I realized that I do not hate her to the degree that I once did. He was hurting her as she was hurting him. She should have ended it first, but I can understand what might have led her to seek appreciation from someone else. I would never do this to someone. But I understand how she might have felt at the time, and feel a sort of comradery with her instead of blind hatred. 

Please no hateful comments. Just trying to move on through writing out my thoughts.