So today, I’m in the kitchen with my 14 year old sister and my 21 year old brother, I’m 24. We’re casually talking about things while my sister is making eggs. My brother sarcasticly makes a comment about how if he were not home at that moment he would be blamed for not picking up his mess after making eggs. Normally I’m the one in the house who cleans up after everyone everyday. My sister says yes he would be blamed but overall it would be her to make the mess but as a joke she wouldn’t say anything. I asked why would she not say anything cause again I clean up after everyone. She says she just wouldn’t feel like it. I commented on how she always does that like she did yesterday. She left chips on the floor and I asked why someone would leave the on the floor she giggled but didn’t say anything. My mother asked if she was her and finally admitted that it was. Fast forward to today. After I mentioned that incident she said she was only joking. And I made a comment of “I’m not a maid” she says well “you were cleaning up anyway” and again I said in a firm tone “I am not a maid” at this point I was highly irritated by her comment. I continue making my breakfast and I said that wasn’t cool and yells says “I WAS JUST PLAYING” obviously because she’s 14 I got angry that a child was speaking to me like that so I yelled back asking who thinks she’s talking to. She yells again and says “DON’T SPEAK TO ME LIKE THAT”. As a reaction I got angry and turned the stove off while she was cooking. She got angry and in return she tries to take the bowl of cereal out my hand. We began tugging and in the process I hit her with the bowl. She calls me mean and starts crying and leaves.

My question is did I have a right to react like that? Was she wrong for speaking to me like so being the fact that she’s 14 and I’m 24. Or was It all me that was wrong?