*not baby related, need to vent*

I feel you. I’m a SAHM and I don’t work at all but my husband gets upset when I want to go grocery shopping alone or anytime I ask to leave the baby with him so I can hurry and do something. A few weeks ago I went to a bridal shower. It started at 4 and went till 6 as an open house kind of deal. Since my kid goes to bed at 5 most nights I didn’t think I’d have time to hit it after he’d gone to sleep so I asked my husband to watch the baby from 4-5 so I could run and make an appearance. He complained the whole time and then texted me the whole time I was gone saying the baby is crying he’s ready for bed. So I told him to start the bath and let him play in the water for a few minutes and he literally said “no I don’t wanna hang out in the bathroom for an hour waiting for you to get here” 🙄🙄🙄 like really? You can’t give your kid a bath and a bottle and put him to bed? I was so frustrated. We had a talk about him having to help me more when he’s home but idk. It’s still rough. I’ve kind of just accepted that I have to do it all and to just be happy and surprised when my husband helps lol

I’m in a similar situation where I work a few days a month at my old full time job just so I can get a change of scenery, a break from SAHM life, and to feel like a professional still. Your husband is being selfish. He needs to try to understand that it’s not about the money, it’s about your mental state, and if it makes you feel good to work a little bit then that’s what you need to do.

I have the same problem. I clean houses whenever I can get a gig & my husband - won’t complain out right - but will make comments about how he couldn’t do a load of laundry, make the bed, tidy the kitchen, because he had the baby. Come again? I DO IT EVERYDAY. I honestly think that no matter how hard they try, a lot of men just don’t understand what a toll taking care of a baby can have on us. I don’t care, I will continue working when I can because I don’t do much else. I would suggest continuing to explain to your husband that it’s your time to escape & that he should be able to care for baby just like you do! Nicely of course! But you’re totally entitled if you ask me!

Same with me! I work only Friday nights and Sunday mornings at a little diner. He says he needs more time for himself, more “me” time. But then he complains because I can’t help with any bills so he can’t save any money. So just this week I was like “seriously, I’m not trying to fight, but what would you like me to do? You hate that I work, but you hate when I can’t pitch in.” I said I can look into daycare if he wants, maybe a few days a week so I can work during the week instead. He said no, he wants me to keep raising our baby. And then he apologized. But he says he wants me to figure out a way to make money from home 🤔. But I also like getting out for a few hours. It makes me excited to come home, excited to see my baby, and I like having my own spending cash too! And he’s ready for us to TTC already! Lol