I’m ready to hear your thoughts ladies! I know it’s not ALL men but it seems like in my world ALOT of men have this desire to have unrealistic expectations. Big tits tiny waste nice round ass tiny thighs - which let me just say is really hard for at least me to obtain- but I’d venture to say for most people that’s hard to obtain.

I’ve been told by 4 partners now they wish I was thinner or that they don’t find my sexually attractive because of my weight. On one hand why the F date me in the first place if I’m not your type - on the other hand 4 men? I’ve got to be attracting this at some level!

I’m 5’5” 140lbs athletic size 2 jeans. I’m in no way fat or overweight in my eyes or a drs eyes. Like many sure 5-10 lbs down sounds great- but I think I have a great body- and much more importantly a good heart, good values and a sharp mind.

I know that American culture pushes this “beauty” image. Is that what I’m running up against here ?! Probably to an extent. But I feel like there is more to this!

Curious if other ladies have dealt with this.

Curious what I should be on the look out for picking a future partner so I don’t end up in this bucket again. It hurts to hear. It’s frustrating and tears at my self esteem because I love the person and every time my weight never comes up in the beginning but with time it does. And it’s always a surprise. And I’m always left disappointed that I could have picked and fallen in love with a man that cared so much about external factor like 10lbs. I’ve done some reading online and I get people have different preferences and I don’t mind respecting those - but why do these men that want stick barbies with fake tits keep picking natural athletic me!

I’m so frustrated! I take care of myself and I am working to love myself and body more and more with a health coach - but really !?! It just feels like a set back on that when I hear this bs from someone I care about. It’s like I’m trying to build a healthy self esteem and relationship with myself for myself and these men end up making me feel insecure about something I wasn’t insecure to begin with!

This time sex started to drop off and after asking what’s going on eventually I was told my weight is sometimes a problem and they don’t have a desire to have sex with me because they aren’t attracted to my body—- even though the sex was great for more then a year! They even offered to PAY for a boob job. I love my tits. I think they are great and always have! Nothing wrong with fake tits and maybe after children I’d consider depending on the after status - but for now I love them and have no desire to alter them.

Previous to that relationship I had a similar issue. . .things were going pretty well I thought then one day I got a call saying that I was a great girl with a lot of great characteristics but that my weight was something they just couldn’t get over. That guy even had the balls to say on vacation I ate gelato and a cupcake and that he just realized my weight wasn’t something I was concerned about so he had to break it off.

I work out 4 days a week and mostly eat clean but I’m not insanely restrictive and enjoy a drink when I’d like to here and there maybe 3 a month if that and yes I enjoy occasional treat. Particularly on vacation!

Anyways I feel like there is a blind spot here. Am I just dating douchebags? Help me out ladies!