Before I begin to explain, I just want to say if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all because everyone feels differently about certain things.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for awhile now. We had a date night in with pizza and we actually watched Netflix. It wasn’t a Netflix and chill situation. We have had sex with each other. I forgot how the conversation came up, but he told me about his day at work, and a conversation he had with his co-worker. They were talking about their sex lives. My boyfriend told his co-worker that in his entire life he’s only used a condom x amount of times, and that he has no kids, where as his co-worker has 2 kids with 2 different moms. This rubbed me the wrong way because now his co-worker knows we don’t use condoms and I feel like that was none of his business. The second thing that bothers me is that he admitted he’s never used condoms except like once with each of the past 3 girls he’s slept with. I have slept with 2 guys before him but they both we always used condoms. This made me feel like I’m not different from his ex’s since he didn’t use condoms with them either, where as to me, it meant something to me because I’ve never not used condoms with someone before. He’s someone I could see myself having a future and a family with, and we’ve talked about it. If the pull out method failed, we would keep the baby and raise it together. I know some people reading this may think I’m dumb for believing him, but he has changed and even his parents asked him if he thought I was the one because he’s different with me and he told them I am the one. His moms brought up kids & marriage which she’s never done with his ex’s according to him so I do believe him. I know I shouldn’t feel this type of way because everyone makes bad decisions and neither of us were virgins when we met, but honestly now having sex with him doesn’t even feel the same. He knows how I feel but I don’t know what to do, or how to get over this. Yes, I know I shouldn’t feel this way but I do. Yes, I know most people believe the pull out method doesn’t work, but he dated 2 of the 3 girls before me long term and never got them pregnant and he doesn’t have any STD’s or STI’s and neither do I. I should also mention we both are adults and could raise a child together if need be.

Remember, not everyone has the same beliefs and if you don’t have any advice or anything positive to say, leave the negativity elsewhere.