help help

hi legit question, i just started beinf sexually active recently for the first time. how do you pleasure yourself? my partner been asking me to 'explore' myself because he feels that it is not fair that he always finish but i never do. it didnt really bother but he really wants me to 'explore' myself which i did try like fingering myself, watch porn and even bought those the bullet vibrator but i just dont feel it. any tips?