I need advice if I'm overreacting & what to do or how to deal with this. So my Husband has a "friend" that he plays with online on his xbox. Apparently years ago when he was in highschool they had a long distance relationship for a few months. (He's 29 now) About 7 years ago, I had found some really explicit letters from her back when they were teens. 😷 I asked him about it then & he said they are just friends now. So anyways to this day they still play online which I've learned to accept if it's truly just online gaming. But last November I actually found out while he was on call working he went to go visit her...she lives about 2 hours away & he had some calls to do over there in her town. I logged into his snapchat & seen messages from her saying "omg you looked so nervous to see me" "I could tell you didn't wanna leave" "you should've stayed" blah blah blah. I automatically thought that sounds way more than just "friends" He denied that its anything more so we moved on. Then while he was away on a business trip last December I found out right after he got done talking or skyping on the phone with me he would call her while he was drunk and talk on the phone for a hour or 2. Once again I let it go. They text every other day sometimes late at night even after I fall asleep. I've told him how it makes me feel & all he says is he doesn't see her like that he just likes playing online with her. So I tried compromising & said ok play online or whatever but i don't want you visiting her or calling her anymore and he agreed. But he's still texting her & says he's gonna keep doing it. 😔 I have never seen him say anything flirty or inappropriate but I KNOW she likes him. We're girls...we can just tell. & she knows we're married & I've tried talking to her about it calmly...& then not so calmly at times lol🤦 but nothing is working. I feel like they are just going behind my back & doing whatever they want. I honestly don't feel like he's physically attracted her I think he likes the attention/thrill knowing she has a crush on him so it boosts his ego a bit.🙄 So my question is, If this was your Husband what would you do? I'm just tired of fighting with him & feeling miserable over this. I'm literally having anxiety/panic attacks daily just thinking about it. Not gonna lie, Divorce has crossed my mind alot here recently...not just because of this but also other issues. I just need help & advice on what to do. 😭