TMJ remedies?

Ladies who have this, what remedies do you have? My dentist gave me a massage and it helped so much and she told me to teach my husband how to do it but my husband is unwilling to do it as he doesn’t seem to think I have an issue at all. I try to do it myself but I can’t do it correctly.

Also, I feel like my stress sets it off and makes it worse. I tend to clench my jaw a lot during stress. I have already figured out caffeine is a trigger as well. It’s interfering with my quality of life. Any suggestions will be appreciated.