A little over three months ago I had my yearly ob/gyn visit where I got pelvic exam, Pap smear, and std tests. I had a fwb at the time and everything came out clean. Shortly after I got a new fwb and stopped speaking to the old one. I knew I was clean going into it but I wasn’t too sure about him so we used condoms anyways. Only lasted a couple weeks and then we ended things. Well about a month ago I started talking to this guy and we are now dating. I haven’t had a serious relationship in a long time as I’m a sexual assault survivor bc of my ex so I’ve been scared of relationships. My boyfriend and I have been talking about us both wanting to get tested so we just know 100% even though we are both pretty sure we are clean of stds. I called to set up an appointment to get tested again and the nurse was explaining that I don’t need to come in as I just was tested 3 months ago. I told her I knew that and nothing specific happened where I think I have one but I just wanted to get tested anyway as I’m in a new relationship and I was never tested after my last partner. She was hesitant in scheduling me an appointment but she did anyway and left my doctor a note. They called me the next day and the same nurse explained to me that my dr thinks I need counseling with her when I come in for my appointment. She said that I need help with the amount of people I have slept with if I feel the need to get tested twice within 3 months. I kept explaining how I was in a new relationship and simply just wanted to get tested no questions asked and then she started asking me if I have been unfaithful to my partner or vice versa. She wouldn’t stop talking down on me trying to get me to admit something I didn’t do/ make me admit to having sex with more people than I actually did. She then told me that if I come in to get tested she’s going to have to just give me another pelvic exam/ Pap smear. She KNOWS I’m an assault survivor and that this is traumatic for me. I’m so confused and hurt because growing up I was always told to get tested between every partner. I didnt think I would ever get SHAMED for wanting to be tested. Has anyone ever had an experience like this? Is this normal for them to shame me? I feel so uncomfortable and don’t even wanna go anymore if they’re going to make me feel like shit. I had 1 partner after getting tested before my boyfriend. So 2 in total without being tested for.