Okay I just feel like I need to rant in order to get some perspective and let it all out, so don’t judge me lol. Ok so little back story...

My husband comes from a large family (He’s 1of 6) His family lives in Kansas, we live in NM. I love his family, they’ve never been rude or disrespectful! My brother in laws gf( we’ll call her Jean) is great. We don’t have much in common, don’t know each other that we’ll, but she’s nice, we get along just

Jean and I both found out we were pregnant a few weeks apart, she was about 3wk ahead of me. The family was so soooooo excited, as was I! I mean our babies were gonna grow up together!!❤️❤️ unfortunately, she miscarried at 8 weeks, we were all devastated💔 Now I’m 23 weeks with a baby boy 💙, and she’s commented a few times of how cute my belly looks and how she’s have been the same right now, and we talk about what it would be like. I’ve never once shut her down from talking about it, I understand it’s hard! I encourage her to talk about her feelings so she doesn’t feel forgotten or like her baby didn’t matter.

So now, hubbys parents and brother are in town, Jean is here as well, she and my MIL are very close. I was talking to my MIL about how excited I am for the baby shower because she loves party planning and is usually on it months in advance, so I starated talking to her about plans very early in the pregnancy. Today, she told me about how she had our baby showers planned but now that Jean isn’t going to be one of the moms celebrated, she’s not sure what to do. How she had all the wonderful ideas and so much planned, and now she’s not sure what to do. I get it, she’s upset as well. But now any time that I try to bring up my pregnancy, talk about the baby, show my cute belly, or something baby related, she changes the subject reallll quick, even when Jean isn’t around. She was very excited when my I was pregnant with my daughter and now she hardly acknowledges my pregnancy.. actually nobody does. I want to talk baby names, and birth stories and all things baby, but I’m the only one. I feel for Jean, I really do.. I’ve been there, right before I got pregnant this time, I had a miscarriage, and it hurt but I’m so happy to be pregnant again, and nobody cares!! So I feel like I’m being a baby about this, and I don’t want to feel like this! I want to sympathize with Jean, but where do I fall into this? Am I not aloud to be excited? Ir am I being insensitive??? Just needing some perspective..