Hello everyone! I need some advice - my husband and I have a one month old babygirl. He has been a decent dad BUT there are a few things that bother me & I need advice as to whether i’m overreacting or not.

First, i’m on maternity leave and he is working. The baby wakes up at night to eat so he says I should sleep on the couch with the baby in the living room since he works and doesnt want to be woken up. WTF? Did I conceive this baby all by myself? SACRIFICE A LITTLE SLEEP, DUDE. YOU’RE THE DAD OF A NEWBORN.

Second, we like cars - car shows are our favorite hobby. He leaves us multiple nights a week to attend these car shows & wont get home until 2am or so - in which his car wakes the baby because it’s noisy. Am I selfish for thinking he should skip the car meets and spend time with US?! Again, I feel like he should be able to sacrifice a few car meets until our baby is old enough to attend.

THIRD, with cars comes racing a lot of the time - tonight was one of those times. We went out as a family & once we got home, he literally left the car running, got out, and unhooked our kiddo from the seat, and expected me to follow inside so he could go racing. UHM NOOO! What kind of FATHER boots his newborn & wife out of the car so he can go racing?!

Basically, I feel like he is choosing when to be a dad & thinks its okay to constantly ditch me and the baby so he can go do things we used to do before the baby was born. I think this is very wrong and am debating on taking our kid and leaving. I think He either needs to be a dad all the time or NONE of the time.

SO, any advice on next steps and/or what I should do?!