Don’t you think we have tried to just let it happen!! Do you think women enter directly into a relationship looking to conceive right away? No! You are happy and excited and having fun sex and after a year or two you realize, “hey we’ve been having unprotected sex for a while!” Scientifically speaking we should’ve conceived by now. Than that’s when a person starts to actually try! You think maybe you just haven’t had sex on the right days. So you start taking ovulation tests. When that doesn’t work. You start tracking your temperature. Another year goes by with no luck. So you visit your obyn. Than comes the

fertility meds

. Some ovulate with them and some don’t. My doctor confirmed I was ovulating with and without fertility medicine! Another 6 months still no pregnancy. Than there’s the hsg. Which for me came back entirely clear! We try some more and still nothing. People tell you to stop trying so hard it will happen. So you stop trying so hard again months past and still nothing happenens. People tell you to lose weight and eat right. So I proceed to lose weight and got down to almost 109 pounds still nothing. The desperation is real. People think if they tell you to stop trying so hard and have fun it will happen. What do you think we were doing to begin with do you think we wanted to try as soon as we met our significant other? No! We were having fun and then we realized something was wrong.

<a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a>

was not an option for me it’s too expensive and so was our

<a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IUI</a>

. Although I’m facing secondary infertility I still empathize with those who are facing infertility for the first time. You take test after test each month. You know that this is your month. You followed the doctors instructions. You timed to six accordingly. Yet nothing. Another negative test. That’s when you start to think a little of yourself. That’s when you begin to think that maybe you aren’t good enough. Maybe you don’t deserve a husband. After all what’s the point of being married if you can give him the one thing he wants. Infertility is real. It’s easy for someone on the outside of the situation telling you to just relax and have fun. Or jus adopt as if it was that easy. You try going through four years of infertility and than tell me how you would keep your composure. Women face infertility don’t need you to tell them what to do. They need you to have faith for them because they have already lost it. They need you to pray for them because they feel like God isn’t listening. They don’t need another person telling them what to do when there’s already doctors telling them what to do. So instead of trying to tell someone what to do,Try saying that I’m going to pray for you. Because you never know what someone is going through mentally dealing with infertility. For all those face infertility I pray for you and I’m wishing baby dust your way.