My mate and I have been together for over a decade. While we are the biological parents of all three of our young children, my partner came out as trans to me and those close to her a few years ago. We don’t deal with this a lot in the public because my mate is still in the beginning of transitioning.

We explain things in a way that is best for our household- this parent is “Papa” and this one is “Mama” and yes, Papa has a penis and was born a boy but is now a girl.

My oldest daughter is totally cool with that and has no problems saying “Papa is a girl.”

We live in Ca, so it could be worse for us, but with my daughter starting school I’m worried about her getting in trouble??? for saying both her mama and papa are girls.

Should I give her teacher a heads up??

I want to explain to her teacher that my daughter has two mom’s and so please remember that when doing Father’s Day and Mother’s Day activities and what not, but do I also explain that her other mother is trans?

Or so I say nothing and just let her teacher think whatever she wants to, possibly telling my daughter that she is “wrong” and that no, her ‘papa’ can’t also be a girl.

I’ve asked my mate and she isn’t telling me what she wants. :(

Should I just wait?

School starts in two days.