My husband and I got married recently, and I went off birth control the month leading up to our wedding. I have two children from a previous relationship and figured it would take a while to get pregnant (because it had before), so why not?

Well I was wrong, and I got pregnant the first cycle.

I took a test the day we got back from our honeymoon and . . .

I told him later on in the evening and he was so happy!

My past relationship with my kids’ father wasn’t a good one. It was abusive in a mental and emotional way, and he also cheated on me several times. Both times I got pregnant (once on accident, and the second time that we PLANNED - you guys I literally had an IUD removed and we made the decision together) he wasn’t happy.

It was so overwhelming to me to see my husband so happy that I was pregnant because I had never experienced that before. I cried like an idiot, but was thrilled.

Here’s where my poll comes into play - I want to keep this pregnancy a secret. I don’t want to post an announcement on social media, and I only want to tell those close to us who we see often. My friend wants to throw me a shower, but I want it to be small and intimate to avoid people knowing who don’t need to. I *do* want to share the birth of our child with everyone (maybe a week after the birth so we have that time privately as well), but that’s it. I want this experience to be so special for just my husband and I, without involving others and their well-intentioned comments/opinions.

I’m worried that when I tell our families that I want it to be private, and that they cannot post to social media, that they’re not going to be happy, or aren’t going to want to honor my request.

Is it crazy that I want to keep this under wraps?

How would you handle the family aspect of this?