Am i wrong for being hurt still over my miscarriage?

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I had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago and I was 5 weeks along.. i’ve been so hurt and upset over it ever since. I cry randomly and just feel so empty.. 
My sister is telling me I should be over it by now and to look at the positives... to me right now there isn’t any positives I’m grieving.. and when I tell her that she tends to go on saying 
“People have it way worst than you be lucky you can even conceive cause I know girls who can’t!” 
I feel guilty for even being upset over my miscarriage... I feel guilty for being hurt.. like I’m not allowed to feel any way besides okay with it which I can’t come to terms to do right now...
I get people are going through hard times too... even way harder than mine, but doesn’t mean I can’t grieve over this, i loved my little bean no matter how early or how small it was i grew an instant connection when i saw the positives... 
I don’t know what do you ladies think...

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I’m sorry but your sister sounds like an insensitive bitch! If someone told me that I should be over my child’s death 2 weeks later, I would cut them out of my life. That’s horrible

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Your sister doesn’t sound very supportive. I am so sorry you’re going through this. We lost our son in May and if I find out I’m pregnant and for a horrible reason lost it at 1 weeks I’m going to be devastated. I was full term when we lost our son and my biggest fear is not conceiving as quickly as we did the first time around and losing this baby no matter how far along I am. I want to go through a healthy pregnancy, and come home with a tiny human to call mine. There is no specific time of grieving. You deal with it how you have to. From her point she just sees it as you not being pregnant anymore and being able to try again, and I get that, but she’s not seeing it from your point of view of forever being afraid for this to happen next time around.  She will never understand your pain (or at least I hope she never has to from her own perspective) but you grieve for however long you feel you need to. Talk to your doctor about how healthy you are. Also talk to them about the rubella shot. I’m not saying this is why you miscarried but when I was 10wks along, my OB had mentioned to me that when I had my baby, to get the shot for the next pregnancy. Best of luck in your future pregnancy and I hope for a positive outcome :).

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I’ve had 5 miscarriages and I’m still not back to normal. We all grieve in our own time. Take your time and don’t rush your healing ♥️

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I've had 4 miscarriages in total, first being in 2010 and I still get PTSD flashbacks from that ordeal. I'm almost 16 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby now and I'm an absolute paranoid mess. Some can grieve and move on, but that doesn't mean it doesn't creep up in our thoughts and make us incredibly mournful. It's only been 2 weeks for you! You have every right to still be mourning. After my first one, I didn't attempt to get pregnant again until 3 years later. You grieve how you want to grieve.

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I’m sorry for your loss. I miscarried 10 years ago and have had two children since and I still get sad or cry when I think of my first baby that I lost 💔

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First of all, I am sorry for your loss. I had a mmc in march and there are still days where I am a mess. Your sister is being insensitive. There is always going to be someone who has it worse, but that doesnt mean that what you are going through isnt difficult or your emotions arent vaild. I suggest not talking to your sister about it, and ask that she doesn't bring it up. You still need to talk to someone but not her if she is going to be like that. You have no reason to feel guilty you did absoloutely nothing wrong. I was lucky enough to have a best friend who would call just to ask if i had drank water, eaten, and got out of bed that day. You need people who are loving and supportive, if she isnt going to be there for you how you need her to, express that to her. If she cant do that then space yourself until you have had time to heal. Breathe, eat, sleep, relax, talk, and HEAL.

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You need to cry  you cry or grieve whatever way suits you. Sounds like she's never been in your position. 😕

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I had a miscarriage where I hadn't known I was pregnant. It still hurts sometimes and it was months ago. 😕 it was my second one last year. I'm pregnant now and so far so good but I still think about those babies.

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That's an extremely insensitive thing to say. You mourn the way you need to so you can heal. I sure hope your sister never has to endure the trauma of a child or pregnancy loss and if she has then shame on her. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope all goes well for you.

Am i wrong for being hurt still over my miscarriage?

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