So lately the wife and i have no actual quality time together and our sex life is in the toilet. We both say we want to spend time and when i set up dates it always gets ruined by the children for some reason or another. We have 5 children ranging from 21 yrs old -8months old so we have babysitters if need. It

seems like she will use them arguing (which is normal for siblings to do) as a reason for us not getting away even for a couple of hours. Hell i can’t even cum after she does because she fas asleep. Tbh i get tired of pleasing myself because it’s not the same. Oh and we have been together for 7yrs, married for 3. Can anyone give any advice/tips/experience?