There’s a guy that I really like at work. We’re not on the same shift and rarely see each other there, but that’s where we met about 2 years ago. I felt like there was instant chemistry when we met. We seem to be stuck in this cycle where we hang out a lot for a couple months, then will rarely talk to each other for a few months, repeat.

We’re both really into each other and he wants me to be his girlfriend, but I don’t think it’ll work out in the end. I’m 24, he’s 35. We get along great, but he has 2 sons (4 and 8). I love kids but he’s a complete pushover when it comes to his kids misbehaving. For example, one time I was over and his 8y/o brought in his scooter from outside and was riding it around the living room, over Xbox controller cords repeatedly. He told him to stop once, and his son didn’t listen. So he just let him keep doing it. He also introduced me to his kids (without telling me first) the 1st time we hung out, which I wasn’t really comfortable with, because I don’t want the kids getting attached if we’re not in a relationship. Also, not a big deal, but he’s not a good kisser.

I really like him but I don’t know if I’ll be able to get past the way he lets his children misbehave all the time. He quit working at my shop about 9 months ago, and I missed him but I was also kind of relieved. But he came back a couple months ago and every time he starts a conversation (on Facebook/text) I can’t seem to stop myself from replying. Please help! I don’t know what to do