So, I feel like I’m the reason why I’ve never had a boyfriend. So, I haven’t had the best experience with men in my childhood so I feel like that’s part of my issue. When I think about dating I think so much on what I want and don’t want. So that’s already established. Backstory: The male figure in my family is very unstable, emotionally abusive, and unreliable which has caused my household to be powered by women. So, When it comes to dating, I look for signs of abusive behavior, possessiveness, and manipulators. I find it already hard to completely open up with people that I don’t completely trust. And I know, from friend experience, once I’m comfortable, I let my guard down which could allow someone to destroy me once they are in. I feel like I subconsciously have walls up because I’m scared of the unknown which prevents me from actually moving into a relationship.

How do I change my mindset😩??

I would also like to say I’m not in a rush to date because I do enjoy being single, but I feel ready to date and I feel lonely sometimes. I’ve tried online dating and it was great until I got ghosted and I had to take a break. I prefer just meeting men in real life than on an app because I find it harder to truly connect through text.