My son just turned 2 months today yay! He is my first child, I love him to death, and I’ve just been wanting to focus on us being a new family.

So this is the thing, my family and my husband family couldn’t be more differently. I’m 24 and my parents are 44&50, you know youngish. My husband is 26 and his parents are 67&68, old. My mom has gotten 3 grandchildren within a year and my son is my husbands family only child in the family. I get it, our son is the youngest so everyone want to meet him but I’m fed up at this moment. I’m not sure who can relate but when you have your first child, a new child, slow exposure is best in my opinion. Your baby is learning their place in the world and learning how to fight off our big germs. Well my in-laws has gotten on my last nerve. The problem is that my husband doesn’t know how to say no to his family. So my son was due June 7 and he can’t June 8th. Well my husbands cousin (that he do not know because he hasn’t seen her since he was a boy) called and said “you dad gave me your number and he said I could plan you all a baby shower, I told everyone that we could do it on June 14, I hope that work for you all!”. 🙄 I was like that’s a sweet gesture and all but we don’t know when the baby is going to make his arrival into the world so a date further out would be better for us. She was like yeah let’s just keep that date and if he’s not born by then we will change it and my husband was like “okay, sounds good!” 🤬 We had a huge fight and I explained to him he don’t know if we will be completely healthy or if we will need a little recovery time. Don’t go making plans for us.

Ok so just to let you all know, anything I say we are doing with his family is 3 hours away because we have no family in town. Long story short my husband didn’t cancel the baby shower because he didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. So for the sake of our marriage and me not wanting to be a bitch I went to his families 4 times since my son has been here, 4! That is about a total of 8 hours of travel time each time because I nurse my son every 2 hours and we have to pull over to do that. I was annoyed each time we went but I went because that is my sons family but they are going to have to start coming to us.

Then there is his mom who doesn’t live anywhere so she’s always trying to come stay with us extended amounts of time. She can afford her own place but she give all her money to the church for whatever reason and know she is always in my space. So the other day she stopped by again unannounced while I was trying to nap because my child is a baby he doesn’t sleep through the night and that mean neither do I. And since we’re constantly trying to please his family I am extra exhausted. Well his mom came over and woke my son up-strike one. Then she was kissing on his-strike 2. Then was like he’s fussy, give him to mom. So I got him calm and I went to take a shower. So I’m always really quiet and even more so when I’m tired. His mom was like you may be going through postpartum depression because you don’t seem happy. I was about to really speak my mind but I was just like I’m fine. I’m tired of his mother being around all the time!! She literally tries to stay with us about 3 times a week. Then she was like I wouldn’t have to come so much if y’all would visit more often.

I have literally been to too many places with my newborn. I think I’m about to cause problems in our relationship because I am done traveling. If it was all up to me she would’ve stayed home every time.