Fiancé took a job that requires travel and let’s just say my family is not happy about it. At all. They’re not “bashing” him per se but pretty much. I talked to my assistant manager about it as well and he basically agrees with my family that it isn’t a decision a man with a family would/should make.

Back story:

I’m 29 weeks pregnant and this past Monday my fiancé started a new job that requires travel for weeks/months at a time with time to come home when requested. The pay is $15/hr guaranteed overtime, weekly pay and travel pay/paid hotel. Right now they’re on 12 hour shifts m-f about 2 hours away. The last day at that job 2 hours away is Friday. And they will be flying him and everyone else out to Texas for another job. This is an electrician company. My fiancé’s friend is the one that told him about it and he said there’s no way he’d be taking the job/leaving his 5year old if the pay wasn’t worth it for now.

Everyone in my family is basically saying how wrong he is to leave me and our two year old especially while I’m pregnant. They’re saying he should be here and I shouldn’t be in the position to handle everything here by myself. This outraged me because I feel like I can handle it. I was/am so attached to him that that’s literally the only thing making me sad. But my point is, what if he wasn’t in the picture at all? I’d STILL have to do it all.

They’re like “well what are you and him gonna do if he can’t make it for the birth?” And just making me feel horrible and It’s like they don’t know how nervous I am about that particular situation also. They’re either gonna make me resent this decision or them.

I’m so frustrated because literally they’re belittling him and I’m OVER IT. it’s not only causing me stress hearing how “it’s not fair and too much for you” but also making me hate this decision and I want to be as supportive as I can be. He is SO SAD about not being here and I am the one that pushed him to take it. If the pay is worth it then why not? Were in a financial shit hole and if this sacrifice for the both of us is worth it then why is it such a problm? UGH

Before he agreed to the job he made it very clear that he needs to be there when I give birth in October. They agreed they will fly him home from wherever he is to make it. So I’m holding them to it and so is he. He says there’s no way he’ll miss the birth.

Please I just need words of advice/encouragement here