Hey ladies! I’m 7 weeks pregnant with my first baby! My husband and I have been together for 4 years, Married just over 1 year! We have been planning on having kids since we got engaged! He knew I wanted kids from the first day we met, He also has 2 boys from his HighSchool GF, they were 17 with 1st one and had the second 4 years later, both unplanned. They had a rocky relationship and she use to use the kids to get money from him, the stories I have heard from everyone are pretty terrible... he missed years from his kids lives with the custody battles... (just for backstory) but anyways....

We were trying to get pregnant! We both agreed and wanted “more kids”. This was a big choice for him. His kids are old now so starting over was asking a lot, I was upfront and honest, kids were non negotiable for me from day 1.

We used to drink and smoke cigarettes, I’ve been trying to quit for over a year, he even tried too. It’s hard, especially since his whole family smokes and drinks, like drink everyday, 5 o’clock cocktail EVERY day, Monday through Sunday. Saturday and Sunday starts in the coffee, then mimosas, etc till you drank all day! My parents were less then pleased with the influence to say the least.

Since I got pregnant I quit cold turkey same day! It has been hard, especially since my Husband has not slowed down at all. So we have been spending no time together because I do not want to be around the smoke. I have been walking everyday, doing yoga, eating healthier, cut out caffeine,etc.

I am very annoyed that he is staying in party mode and it is freaking me out a little... He has disappeared twice in the last two weeks to go smoke pot and drink at his friends house, leaving me to tend to his 1 Kid that lives with us. He missed his sons first day of high school because he was hungover. ( His excuse later is that I have been A Bitch since I got pregnant)

My question is: How long does it or did it take your man to accept the changes?

This baby was a life change I have been waiting for and I have jumped head first and committed to being healthier for our child and for myself. How do I get him to get onboard? Me looking pissed all the time is not helping... lol 😂

He also complains we aren’t having sex, but he’s never around! He usually leaves for work at 5:45am and come home at 6pm or later, sits on the porch on the phone drinking most nights until 8pm and sometimes later. Then any attention he gives me, he expects sex, instantly. I just feel like we aren’t connecting!!

He saw me reading “ what to expect when your expecting” and he was like “Don’t expect me to be reading any books” ... 🤷‍♀️ I was like I didn’t say anything....

Asking for advice is asking for it.... so give it to me!