I've been married for 2 years now, and this is really bothering me and I've tried so many things. But the issue is with me and not my husband.

We have an active sex life and I say we do it maybe at least 5 times a week or more, depending on the workweek. I'm also two months PP but we are still doing it at least 5 times a week.

Now my issue to this problem is myself. I can't for the life of me orgasm during sex. Yes, I know that's common but it's frustrating me because the only way I can get myself off is during foreplay where I just play with myself until I do while I give my husband a bj. I don't mind my husband fingering me, and I actually don't like him going down on me . And this is where my issue is. My mind. Though I can enjoy it at times, my mind makes me paranoid about myself. Now during sex, even if I feel so close to releasing, it never happens because my mind just goes to places. My mind is driving me crazy it starts wandering to stupid shit. Like hello, im enjoying this alot then a few seconds later my mind goes to something else. Just clarify, despite me not climaxing during sex I still feel satisfied from it.

Also, I hate my body atm. I had issues with my body before I was pregnant but it was so minor. But now, with so much weight gain (working on it) and how big Ive gotten I just feel ugly and fat and that also adds to the frustration when having sex.

I just don't know what to do with myself. Any help would be great. Any toy recommendations is great too.

Thanks y'all