Is it rape if

So heres the story. I was drunk with my best friend and her "man" (let me tell u she had 3 other "men" who she claimed she was w) anyways we was all drinking. I had just gotten into a relationship. I don't remember much. I remember I kissed my friend. But we was drunk we always do that dumb shit. Anyways I remever turning around n she was naked at his bedroom door. He like was standing up and i was on the couch and he said "I wanna see what u bout" and i was like "haha nah i have a man I can't" so he picked me up and took me into his room all while me beint like "uhhh oh my no" and anyways i ended up in the corner she was on the bed and he was infront of me. He kept tryna make me suck his dick I remember i kept saying no. No i cant do this. Hey no i dont wanna do this. Well i ended up on the bed n i remember her being like "just dont cum in her thats all i ask" and i remeber her kissing me. Well fast forward to 11 months later. Me and my friend are still cool . shes like my only friend. Turns out she's been hiding the fact that shes been fucking with the dude who raped me THE WHOLE TIME. She's making me question if it was even rape. I know i didnt want it. I kept saying no. Her exact words were " i was like deeply in love w him. He explained to me how it wasn't rape. man just imagine ur with ur girl and her friend who ur girl has told you stories about them two having threesums together." I was like yea well i still said no. She said "well u kept saying no until u got the dick" BITCH THE FUCK IS THAT. SHE TRYNA MAKE ME FEEL LIKE OH WELL ITS OKAY THAT U GOT RAPED IT WASNT RAPE BC U LIKED IT. FIRST OF ALL I AINT LIKE IT. SECOND OF ALL I FUCKING FROZE WHEN HE STARTED FUCKING ME. THE FUCK. so am i over reacting or was this actually rape.