I’m working 6 days a week. I’m a FTM. I have no time or energy left. My super close friend, and my mom are supposed to be planning my baby shower since I’m not supposed to plan it . My friend is on a busy schedule also, and my mom has a whole bunch going on . I hate to have to put it all on them .

I’ve asked to help but they won’t let me (I guess because the mom-to-be isn’t supposed to stress about the baby shower) . But I’m now 33w3d and we don’t even have a date yet . We recently had lunch together and “planned” the games, food, and all but we don’t have a date . We don’t have a single decoration either .

Everyone else has had their showers already and then there’s me . What if I go into labor early? I don’t wanna seem ungrateful because like I said, I really wanna help them buy whatever is needed, and plan everything but they don’t communicate with each other at all unless I have to remind them to . I also hate feeling like a nuisance to them . We haven’t bought a SINGLE baby item. We’ve bought a few outfits from online but that’s it . No diapers, wipes, onesies or anything in that nature. I feel like I’m so behind . My SO doesn’t wanna buy anything until after the baby shower because he doesn’t want someone to bring a gift or something that we already may have.

But I feel like I will never have one . They’ve been talking about it for the LONGEST and have gotten nowhere really . Also, what if alot of my guests don’t show up and it’s empty? I’ve even told them that I’m thinking about just not having one , because I don’t want to bother them with the trouble since it’s taking so long to have the shower, but they insist. I really wanna cry . I don’t know what to do, and I’m ready to just give up.