So I’m in need of some friendly advice/opinions.

I’ve been quite emotional this morning and feel like alll the things in my head hit me like a bus. This is the issue I’m dealing with..

I’m currently 27.5 weeks pregnant. I’m considered high risk due to having PCOS and insulin resistance. My GD has been under control through diet, but it’s still not where it should be, and I think I’ll eventually end up on insulin. I was borderline insulin resistant before getting pregnant due to my PCOS so that didn’t help my situation. 😔

With that said, the real issue is I’m a teacher. I go back in September. My OB wants me to leave in October at 36 weeks, which I’ll prob leave at 35.5 the way the calendar falls. So really I’ll only be working for about 4 weeks before I leave. I plan on taking my mat leave and then resigning. I work 50-80 min one way from my home, so it’s not feasible with a newborn if I were to go back. I plan on finding a new position closer to where I live next school year. I’m miserable at the school I work at and here’s one of the reasons why... (this has not been my only issue with my principal and the school since working there)

Since telling my principal I’m pregnant, I’ve been constantly sent mean almost harassing emails from her, explaining how unhappy she is with my performance (this is my 2nd year. I’m alternate route, and though the school should provide mentoring, I did not receive any- she knew hiring me that I had no experience). Meanwhile, my supervisors and everyone I work with have no complaints. All of my observations have been good and my “grade” for the year was effective. She stated in a meeting at the end of the year that she almost didn’t renew my contract because the “supervisors” wanted to let me go but she’s giving me a second chance this year. Meanwhile, the supervisors would’ve told me they were unhappy with my performance during my observation meetings, so I know she’s the one with the problem. So it began to feel personal between my principal and me, since on paperwork, my performance has been good.

I just got an email a couple of weeks ago stating I am going to be teaching 1st grade this year instead of kinder (which is where I’ve been for the past 2 years). The problem with this is that next week, I have to clean everything out my old room and lug it up two flights of stairs (school is old, there are no elevators) to then set it back up in a new room. At 29 weeks pregnant.

On top of this, 1st grade is not provided with any assistance. In Kinder, I had an awesome classroom aid, which allowed me to use the bathroom when I needed. We all know that at 30 weeks pregnant, I’m going to need it all the time. I also have to go up two flights of stairs every time I use the bathroom. In Kinder, the aids bring students to specials and lunch. In first, the teachers have to in addition to picking them up from the cafeteria in the am and dismissing them in the pm. So, I have to go down two flights of stairs, up one flight, down two more flights just to pick them up from lunch/recess/specials, and do the whole thing in reverse to get back to the classroom. At 30/35 weeks pregnant. In addition, first graders get dismissed an hour later then Kindergarten.

Long story short, I’m really nervous about all of this. I have a bad history with falling down stairs (most recently almost breaking my leg and messing up my lower back really bad, then messing up my wrist and neck, and when I was younger bruising my tailbone badly where I still get numb if I sit on it too long) to put it honestly, I’m clumsy as fuck NOT pregnant. 🤷🏼‍♀️The stairs in our building are old and wobbly and sketchy, and I’m terrified of falling with my big ol belly and lack of balance. I honestly feel like my principal is doing this to me to force me out so she doesn’t have to pay my mat leave (there’s another teacher out on mat leave at the same time so she’d have to pay us both). It’s a small charter school with no union and my principal also owns and established the school/business so she gets to do whatever she wants. Our employee turnover is horrible, we had 1/3 of employees up and leave just last school year. That’s about 15 employees.

Part of me just doesn’t want to go back at all. But my husband is going to be out on disability for a couple of weeks from back surgery at the beginning of September and we could really use those couple of extra paychecks before mat leave and then me staying home the rest of the year. We have money saved, but it wouldn’t hurt to have a bit extra.

What would you do if you were in this situation? I plan on talking to my ob this next appointment about my concerns. I’m nervous she’s going to just advise me to stop working which again I would like to have those sept paychecks. To add, I don’t get to collect disability as apparently my school doesn’t pay Into it. I get six weeks paid through family leave and whatever sick/personal days I have left. But I’m thinking if I get a dr note from her maybe that could work? Possibly limiting my stair use and allowing relief for bathroom breaks? I don’t wanna sound like a baby. This is my first baby and I’m nervous and don’t want to put her at risk. And like I said, I’ve almost fallen down these stairs while not super pregnant. This wouldnt have been an issue if I were still going to be in Kinder, as kinder is on the main floor and I had an aid. I’m just super upset about all of this.